I left my hubs to feed the dogs, fish, cats and chicken while I went away for 5 days to a writer’s conference, #RWA14 in fact. This poses the does absence make the heart grow fonder question.
I love my hubs, but it’s nice to be missed and to miss. I can’t say that I missed him so much as I knew he was within my heart. He’s a part of what I do and he’s a huge part of my support structure to let me publish and write. There is no fiscal way for me to do what I do without him. I also need his emotional support, his social support and acceptance.
There is no bigger fan that doesn’t read my books such as my hubs. Yep, he’s just not that into romance, or erotica, but he sure as hell supports me and what I do. He loves having a writer girl!
Yes, he did miss me and I missed him, however, absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder as much as making us realize why we love each other. We don't "complete" each other, we want to see each other succeed. We want what's best for the other. When I go or he goes to conventions we understand this is something that is good for the other. It doesn't mean we don't miss each other, it means we take heart in knowing this "alone" time we have is for the enrichment of each other. We get a chance to be with the person that looks at us from the mirror. To me that's the most important relationship I'll ever have and I'll take good care of that one for the rest of my life. But it's good to miss and remember the little things my hubs does for me.